Twilighters

Okay Bella clearly sees herself as the paternal figure here.  His is not entirely inconsistent for a child raised by a young single mom.  However why does she cling to her mother’s concept of not getting married so strongly when she doesn’t seem to hold onto any of her other teachings at all?  I can’t think of a single reference to any other preconceived notion that Bella has carried with her from either of her parents.  Yet she’s fortunate enough to have found the “man of her existence” at such a young age, saving years of heartache and loneliness and all she can do is reject his proposals.  She’s going to be dead who cares if she’s married.  Hello!!!!!!  Also for those of us and I’m sure it’s everyone here that has read the first chapter of breaking dawn.  Her mother’s perfectly okay with her marrying Edward and clarifies that marriage wasn’t okay for herself that young, but Bella was always mature for her age and isn’t surprised at all because of the intensity of their relationship.  So why is she still having hang ups about marriage and cars?  Does this seem consistent with either one of their character’s development?